This Is What You Do When Your Spouse Is Unfaithful To You In The Worst Possible Way
Unless you are in an open marriage, are poly, or have a harem, you probably have a one-on-one relationship with your husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, partner, or whatever you call each other. You make a promise of being faithful to each other. You say that you will share the same bed, sexually, and allow no others in it. Then the other person goes off and does something monumentally stupid, bad, and evil, and in the worst possible way. He or she has sex not just with another person, but does a few other things to twist the knife a little bit harder into your chest.
Rather than fictionalize this matter, let's discuss the real-life example of Mr. Adam Ronk, of Michigan. The intent here is not to mock Mr. Ronk; in fact, we have the deepest sympathy for his plight and we offer our sagest advice.
Step 1: You're a Good Guy With Options
You're a solid Joe, handsome-ish. You're young enough that you still have some of that college goofiness left in you. Good catch all-round.
Step 2: Meet Woman Who Is Reasonably Attractive
In the right light, in the right pose, she's pretty. Besides, there's the matter of her light-brown skin, a rarity in this part of Michigan. And that maiden name: Kathryn Tanury. Nice name.
Step 3: You Get Together
She's a fun lovin' girl, but we would only call her saucy, in that fun way, not slutty. After all, she teaches Spanish at Bishop Foley High School, Madison Heights, Michigan. Teachers are virtuous types, relatively so. Right?
Step 4: So You Get Married!
And then it's wedding bells. Big day. Whole life ahead of you two. Until...
Step 5: Bitch Goes Off and Has Sex With Her 15 Year-Old Student
In the classroom. In the car. At his home. Repeatedly. Not only is this adultery, it is sexual molestation of a minor, and becomes very public in every way you can imagine.
Step 6: Judge Sentences Her To Actual Prison Time
If this was a male teacher who had been involved with a 15-year-old female, there would be people here hanging from the ceiling trying to get every drop of blood. But because it is a woman, there seems to be a winking about what happened.
Sentenced to the maximum time of 5 1/2 years.
Step 7: You Move On
Adam, you do not "support" her. You do not try to understand her "condition" or "issues" or 'difficult childhood' and her "suffering." Even Judge Grant noted that this was the first time in her career she had received letters of support from a defendant's friends and family that did not mention the victim--not once.
Even though you have been cuckolded--and not just plain-cuckolded but cuckolded in a public fashion, involving judges, lawyers, and jail--you divorce her as soon as your attorney can draw up the papers.
Then you hold your head high, clear your mind, and force yourself to put all of this past you. There is no way this will be anything but difficult on every level, but eventually, you will find someone right for you, and years later, this incident will recede in importance and become something to shake your head in disbelief at.
Lesson to be learned here: Do not devalue your worth, and compromise your standards for the sake of maintaining a relationship or even your marriage when egregious and unacceptable behavior surfaces. Cut your losses and move on.