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Skinny Gets You More Guys. Even the Skinny-To-Fat Lady Admits This. But Happy? That's Another Story.

Skinny Gets You More Guys. Even the Skinny-To-Fat Lady Admits This. But Happy? That's Another Story.

joni edelman before and after Writing in Ravishly, Joni Edelman tells about how she got the religion, weight-wise.  On the left is Joni five years ago, age 35, at 123 pounds.  On the right is Joni more recently, after five children (she doesn't say how many children she'd had prior to the first photo).

Joni admits that being skinny means you get more male attention:

Being a size 4 made strangers' heads turn. Repeatedly. It made men in the grocery store hit on me and doctors at the hospital propose torrid affairs.

"Happy" was a different matter.  As a highly motivated achiever, she

attained [that weight] by eating a "plentiful" 1,000 calories a day; by running 35 miles a week (10 on Sunday); by sleeping an average of three hours a day; by counting every bit of food I ate, down to a single cherry tomato

Now that she is in a steady marriage with a man who will love her and be attracted to her, no matter how fat she gets, Joni says that there is "a stillness, and a joy, and a peace," that she has never had before.

Lest you think this is a call to bring on the pizza and milkshakes, keep in mind that Joni is the obsessive type and is, in fact, bi-polar.  She admits that she was "obsessed" with weight-loss and that her mainstay was rice cakes with spray-on butter.

So maybe the answer isn't larding out over milkshakes or Oreos or more Oreos or stopping wearing makeup (See:  30 Signs Your Relationship Is So Comfortable...).  Nor is it obsessing over the "definition of my bicep," as Joni says, or the caloric content of a single cherry tomato.  But it's some kind of sane balance of the two?

 

 

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