In our search for online dating websites that focus on plus-sized daters (also known as Big Beautiful Women or Big Handsome Men) we checked out LargeFriends.com.
How it Works:
If you've ever registered on any other paid dating websites, you already know the drill, and Largefriends.com is no different:
- sign up with an email address,
- post one or more pictures of yourself,
- pick a catchy "tagline" and write a fascinating blurb about yourself and your ideal match in a Profile area,
- search and browse the profiles and pics of other eligible bachelors and bachelorettes.
How It Doesn't Work:
Sigh... yup, you just put all that effort and mental energy into creating this dating profile only to realize you may not wish to pay a bunch of money to a site you're just not sure is legit, or has a good amount of members. It's not that we begrudge a dating site to charge you money for services, but please tell us before we put all that time and energy into our profile. This is known as the "gotcha" factor.
To make matters worse, before we even hit that inevitable wall of membership prices, we saw this at the bottom of the page under the profile box we just created tiny already checked box that reads, "I also agree to register my profile on ChestyFriends.com to get more contacts".
Really? So much for instilling confidence that Largefriends.com is a serious website that helps members look for legitimate dates or partners.
We unchecked the Chestyfriends.com box, and perused profiles which as a Standard (unpaid) member you are permitted to do.
What you are permitted to do as a STANDARD (non-paying) member:
As a standard non paying member, you can look, but not message or initiate contact. You may reply to email contacts, but not initiate any or send messages. You can reply to an instant message but not send one. You can send a wink, post pictures, read bulletin boards on the site on topics. The Gold membership allows you to search with specific body types and other specific criteria.
How Much Does it Cost?
Gold membership, which simply means you are a paying member, and thus entitled to contact people, search with criteria, and have access to some other features costs the following:
6 months (about $15.95/month) 1 payment of $95.95
3 months (about 19.95/month) 1 payment of $59.95
1 month (about $1.00 per day) in 1 payment of $29.95
What Did We See?
The profiles ran the gamut from scantily clad bursting cleavage, replete with suggestive titles and come-ons, to the fully dressed serious partner seekers.
Many members are quite heavy, and some are not. Most of them need a serious personal coach to assist with fashion and photography. (Just because you are a BBW or Plus-Size person doesn't make you exempt from wearing clothes that flatter and fit. And ladies, having your pic taken in your bathroom while making fish-lips, isn't doing you any favors.
And men? Those pictures!! But that's another story.
Generally speaking the women were better looking than the men, but interestingly, there were also a LOT of very handsome, muscular men on this website that purports to connect heavy or plus-size singles.
This made us smell a rat.
Either men weren't using their real pictures, or something fishy is going on. Certainly, there are men who prefer to pursue larger ladies for various reasons, some of which include less scrupulous motivation of preying on people's insecurities for sex, but the ratio we observed seemed out of whack. Just sayin'.
An Interesting Feature: Verification
Largefriends.com offers a procedure to prove you are who you say you are--your age, photo, occupation, education--by uploading a readable and clear copy of any of your ID's(driver's license, State ID card, passport, diploma or educational qualifications on company letterhead) or other related material. (yikes!) They recommend that members do this to ward off people posing as other than who they are. They state that they do not disclose, sell or rent any personally identifiable information to any third party organizations and all information provided is kept confidential. Perhaps an easy way to show that you are who you are without sending licenses, etc would be to utilize this suggestion, where you hold a sign up next to your pic with the name LargeFriends.com so its clear you are indeed you, and not using a stolen pic from the web.
The site also has Success Stories with pictures, posted by couples who met, dated, married, and also had children.
Should I Go For It?
We say you should check it out, but be prepared to pay at least one month to really get a feel for it. You probably spend more on your cappuccino bill, but give it some thought. We recommend picking one "niche" site, such as one like this for plus-size or BBW/BHM dating, in addition to a more mainstream dating website like OkCupid, simply for the exposure (and it's free!).
DatingGurus grade? C+ for it's potential.
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