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Review of Dating Site: HowAboutWe.com

How About We...Get Off Our Arses And Out The Door?

Unlike a traditional dating website where members post a profile and  picture, commence with introductory emails, chat, and some requisite flirting, dating site/app HowAboutWe.com,  founded in 2010, is based on the premise that people are sick and tired of endless messaging and texting on typical dating sites, and might prefer to connect quickly and get offline.

While we give kudos to this out-of-the-box thinking, we tend to be a bit wary of online dating which does not encourage you to take some time to activate your spidey-sense about a potential date.

How It Works


Members create a profile, (photos mandatory) and insert an activity for How About We _________ .  Suggestions run the gamut from typical to active or quirky:

  • "How about we… grab a comfy chair and sip coffee at Zeitgeist?"
  • "How about we…walk Elliot Bay trail by Olympic Sculpture Park"
  • "How about we... pretend to be a couple and take a tour of the French Culinary Institute as prospective students?”

There's an "About Me" section which includes some formatted questions:

  • My perfect Sunday..
  • My life history in 5 sentences or fewer..
  • I have a weakness for guys or girls who..
  • If I won the lottery and quit my job I would..

Linking to your Facebook Page

You'll also have the opportunity to fill out factoids (religion, ethnicity, occupation, education, child status), add some favorite things (music, books, movies) and the option to upload them directly from Facebook.  While we remain wary about allowing sites to link to our Facebook accounts, we've modified our initial reaction ("No Way in bloody hell!")  about allowing access to our Facebook information and "friends", since over the past year, dates and apps utilizing social media have become the norm. Read our review on Tinder

Still, the typical member, a 20-something, is savvy with technology, but not necessarily with online and offline safety. Yes, the site recommends that dates occur in a public place, but the whole thing is set up to encourage meeting quickly. So, please, people--use your noggin when meeting anyone quickly, before really having a chance to feel them out. And tell someone where you are going.

You Can Look--But Not Touch

It's free to join, and you can take a peek, and read profiles, (after completing a profile and inserting a picture) but be warned that you will need to pay up in advance before you can contact anyone for a date. Try to message that hottie who is proposing to meet at Sun Liqueur Distillery for a house-made Bacon Bloody Mary, and you'll see a pop-up, offering various price plans before you can actually contact anyone.  HowAboutWe is so sure that you'll go out at least once, that they offer to refund your money if you don't go on a real date.


HowAboutWe also offers access to a surprisingly enjoyable blog called The Date Report, with articles about dating, love and relationships.


  • Gets you off yer butt and out the door
  • Offers a money back guarantee if you don't go out on at least one date
  • Different approach to typical dating sites
  • Easy to use interface


  • You may not like the person you are doing the activity with.
  • You can't "really" use the site unless you pay.

Dating Profile Gurus Grade: B

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