If You Want a Real Man, Don't Be a "Girl"
It's a common enough complaint that we hear from many dating women: They just cannot seem to find a real man.
The men--or guys or boys or whatever they want to be called--they meet are too wrapped up in bromancing each other to be interested in girl-mancing. It's all about them and "the boys," out clubbing or at the pub or at sports events. They don't commit. They still live in filthy shared apartments with 3 other guys. They're too obsessed with cars, Star Wars collectibles, TV, video games, beer, and playing the field to want to become a real man.
Where are all of those settled, solid men who want commitment, love, and even a family some day?
On women's dating profiles, we continually see 50 year-old women claiming to be girls. What gives?
P.J. O'Rourke was hired by The Daily Beast to write about the patron saint of all girl-women, Lena Dunham. He expresses surprise that a person who has legally been an adult for the last decade should call herself a girl:
Ms. Dunham is 28. I was under the impression that “girls” is a demeaning term for adult women. The title must have something to do with this hipster “Irony” thing, which I confess I don’t understand. The root of the word irony is in the Greekeironeia, “liar.”
The one takeaway: In your dating profile, change every instance of "girl" to "woman." It's a small change. Nothing will happen right away. The skies will not open up.
But it's a bit like the man-child Steve Carell character in The 40 Year Old Virgin who, towards the end of the movie, makes one tiny change--boxing up his action figures--as a signifier of his life-change into manhood.