Hi.

Love the idea of finding the perfect partner but hate online dating?  Let The Dating Gurus guide you...

The 5 Types of Alpha Men

The 5 Types of Alpha Men

The term "alpha" was practically unknown just a few years ago in the dating world.  Now, it seems that everyone is fixated on this elusive concept of alpha-ness.  For men, if they aren't the next Ray Donovan, Danny Ocean (George Clooney in the Ocean's franchise), or billionaire Iron Man Tony Stark, they feel somewhat...emasculated.  But alpha crosses societal lines and isn't just defined as that one man on top of the heap.

1. The Intellectual Alpha

Cary Grant
Cary Grant

High-voltage brainpower can weaken some women's knees, causing them to search for the nearest fainting couch.  In any other capacity, that Brit, Steve Hawking, might have ended up alone, loveless, childless, and on life's sidelines.  Instead, Stephen Hawking  CH CBE FRS FRSA, managed to pull down a couple of nice-looking ladies and produce three children.  Brainpower is a quite the aphrodisiac.

2. The Creative

Ed Harris as Jackson Pollock

Ed Harris as Jackson Pollock

Thickly-built, hair-scarce Jackson Pollock looked like your son's high school football coach.  By all accounts, he was a major drunk and a jerk extraordinaire.  Yet women fell at Pollock's feet.  This was partially due to his jerkness.  But women can find a jerk at any club around the corner.  What sealed the deal was his ground-breaking abstract expressionist paint-splattering.  The man was a conduit of words from gods, right?  For ages, people have wanted to sidle up next to oracles.

3. Company Head

The company head can be the top dog CEO, head of a department, pastor of a large congregation, or basically head of anything.  He is the leader of people.

So, it doesn't matter which company he heads, as long as it is a group of people who look to him for direction.  

4. The Iconoclast

He's the rebel with a cause.  Mid last-century, he burst on the scene with a pack of cigarettes rolled into his t-shirt sleeve, motorcycle boots, and a lick of greased hair dangling over his forehead.  

Iconoclast? 

Iconoclast? 

With the 1960s came the anti-hero.  The Iconoclast shed the macho armor of leather and he could just as easily be found singing songs of revolution in Greenwich Village's Washington Square Park or traveling to Birmingham, Alabama as a Freedom Marcher.

Today, the Iconoclast's soapbox where he commands the attention of millions might be Twitter.  He might be a chef with his own YouTube channel who wants to shake up conventional beliefs about how food should be.

Whatever his cause, it runs directly up against conventional beliefs.  He might prevail in the end, he might go down in flames and be forgotten by history, but one thing is certain:  his sense of personal direction and confrontation of the norm is powerfully attractive.

5. The True Bad Boy

Ted Bundy:  Serial Killer or Cuddly Lover?

Ted Bundy:  Serial Killer or Cuddly Lover?

Kill a few people (oh, let's say twenty or thirty).  Chop their heads off.  Get caught.  Get sent to prison.  Receive stacks of adoring love letters from hot women around the world--every day.

Huh...wha'?  Yes.  Consider the fact that the baddest of the bad-boy extreme, serial killers, former dictators, mass murderers, child killers--those who are truly, irredeemably, unspeakably evil--get women groupies and fans by the score.  This phenomenon called hybristophilia makes countless women's hearts go pitter-patter.

Bad boys abound, and a large majority haven't killed anybody (that we know of).  Badness is all forms is a powerful aphrodisiac--whether it's the guy who blows up the school yard or merely the guy who sneaks into the movies.

How the Thrill of Novelty Can Make You More Enticing

How the Thrill of Novelty Can Make You More Enticing

"Our Time" Member Interview : Online Dating for 50+

"Our Time" Member Interview : Online Dating for 50+